Wednesday, November 13, 2019

Stay Tuned!

So... if you've noticed, it's been almost 2 weeks since my last post and my last post was more of an emotional one. 

With that being said, it was also the most popular, most viewed, and most shared post in my ten-ish years of on-and-off blogging. Which shows y'all really like when people are real. Like REALLY real. 

I've been looking at my blog a lot lately and trying to figure out the point and reasoning behind why I do it and decided a little break to revamp was needed. In a world where social media is a highlight reel and people think everything they see online is real, I want to show that my life is real. And that it is far from perfect. Because, in reality, ain't no one perfect. 

Sometimes we are happy, sometimes we are sad. 
Sometimes we get dressed, sometimes we look like people of Walmart. 
Sometimes we shower daily, sometimes we stay in pajamas all day because we need to. 
Sometimes we go to therapy. 
Sometimes we cry. 
Sometimes we have date night with our significant others. Sometimes we have date night alone. Because we need both. 
Sometimes we have a glass of wine before noon because we deserve it. And need it. 
Sometimes we yell at our kids. There, I said it. 

With this all being said, my break is going to be a little more than I originally planned but more so because I want to get a better grasp of my space here and how I want to share what I want to share. Because while I've loved sharing food and fashion and fun I have realized that I am ready to share more than just that. 

So... stay tuned! 

Friday, November 1, 2019

Being A B-List Friend

Yes. Today is Friday. And yes, for the past 5 months, every Friday has been #fashionfriday

But today, it's time for a heart-to-heart. And a break from routine here on naynayknows.

Sometimes, you get slapped in the face with a rude awakening and it hits you like a ton of bricks. And it has happened to me recently.

I am a B-List friend.

There, I said it. And you know what, it sucks. I would never, in a million years, ever even think any of my friends would be on a B-List, let alone any list. But recently, I have come to realize that people evolve and change over time and sometimes you just need to grow apart and separate. And they move you to their B-List. 

And in the world today, friendships are a lot of work. A LOT. In a world of social media where people put on a false persona and an almost-picture-perfect life to idolize, you question who they really are. Are they who they say they are? Or are they completely different? More times than not, they're completely different. And the disappointment in them is real. And the disappointment in yourself in falling for it is also real. And then you think about your children and the life that they are going to grow up with in this falsified sense of perfection and the mask of social media. (THAT is a whole other post or series of posts for another time...) 

You see people commenting on posts of others, 'liking' things on social media, tagging people in threads and building these virtual relationships yet when walking down the street, they don't act in the same way. They are a different person. The false persona is just that: false and fake. 

I had (see that? it says had, not have) a friend who would repeatedly blow me off for 'better' things to do or simply forget that we had plans. Regardless of how many times I'd remind her (and why should I have to remind grown adults that they have plans with me?!) But yet would brag about get-togethers with other friends and count down the days til she would get to see them. But me? Nope. I didn't matter to even remember we had plans. Often. Know what that makes me? Hurt. Heart-broken. And disappointed.
B-List friend.

I had a disagreement with a friend and she attacked me and my beliefs, my values, and devalued my opinions while refusing to listen to my side. And unfriended me and blasted me across social media.
B-List friend.

I had a friend going through a hard time. I reached out to see what I could do, offered help and guidance, sent a card. My life was falling apart at the seams and not a peep from her. A group of her mutual friends and I all reached out to help her and she blasted us all for no reason and insulted us left and right. 
B-List friend.

I had a friend who stood by me at my wedding. Next to me in fact. And over time, her personal beliefs changed and did not align with mine. And because I wouldn't change to align with hers, she no longer needed me or wanted me around. 
B-List friend. 

This year, my father's best friend died in January. My "other mother" died after a long battle with cancer in April. My mother unexpectedly passed away in August. My father was in a terrible car accident in early October and thankfully is ok now. My brother has not returned a single phone call about any of it and my mother-in-law doesn't care to even make a simple "I'm sorry" statement to me about any of it. And in the last month, I have had several friends, or so I thought 'friends', smack me figuratively across the face that I do not matter to them. Needless to say, I'm ready for 2020. 

Emotionally, it's exhausting and draining. This is not a whoa-is-me or a feel-sorry-for-me. This is a people-go-through-a-lot-of-shit-sometimes and when they're down, try not to kick them even more. 

A while ago, I posted about different types of friends. The givers, the receivers, and the takers. (read it here if you'd like) I am a giver. I've known this about myself for just about, well, ever. And I adore my friends who are also givers and receivers. But the takers, gosh there's a lot of them. But why do we keep them around? Why do we almost punish ourselves with friends who don't treat us how we deserve to be treated? Why do we do this to ourselves? I wish I had the answers. Believe me, I do. 

BUT, here's some reflection after a long year (with two months to go) full of hurt, heartbreak, and disappointment...

1. Friends help us when we're feeling low. If your friend is not bringing you up when you are down, they are not your friend. And you should remove them from your life and your thoughts. Because they probably are not thinking about you. 
I need to work on this. 

2. Life sucks. A lot. And shit happens. What doesn't break us down makes us stronger.

3. Cry. It helps.

4. Learn to detach, disconnect, and not take it personal. It doesn't matter what you do, did, or said. If someone is going to insult you or hurt you, they're going to do it to you regardless because it's them, not you.
This one I'm working on.

5. A real friend makes you a priority. Otherwise, they're an acquaintance.
Another one I'm working on realizing.

6. Friendship is a two-way street. It's a give and take. You listen and they listen. You give and they give in return. 

What was the point of this? I don't actually know. But pouring my heart out helped me a little so maybe, just maybe, it will help someone else too. 

Wednesday, October 30, 2019

What's Cooking Wednesday: Greek Bowls

OK. Back to yet another EASY dinner. 

Now, I must preface this with I do my grocery shopping at Trader Joe's. If you do not have one near you, I sincerely apologize because it's just the best. Everything in this week's recipe comes from there. And this is one of those 5 minute dinners (yep, you're reading that right, only FIVE minutes to assemble) that you'll turn to all.the.time. 

Carmelized onions. 
You have seen me rave about these for the last few weeks and here's my basic recipe. 
It is a little time consuming, but I make them alongside dinner either Sunday or Monday and I have the container available for the entire week. Which makes recipes just a bit yummier in my humble food-loving opinion. 

Take a bag (yes, a bag) of onions. Yellow onions, sweet onions, doesn't matter. Slice them up. Different size slices is fine. I don't do super thin because that just takes more time. #momlife there. 

Take a large saute pan, drizzle some olive oil in and toss in 2 tablespoons of butter (give or take). Let that melt together a bit then toss in the onions. Drizzle the onions after about 5 minutes in the pan with some honey. Maybe 2 tablespoons. But just squeeze the bottle about 2 rings around the pan. It's not specific or scientific. Also depends on how sweet you want them.  Then, after another 5 minutes, drizzle some balsamic vinegar in. Maybe a tablespoon. Then, stir every so often. This honestly usually takes a solid 25-30 minutes. So, grab the glass of wine and relish it while these beauties carmelize. 

Trader Joe's precooked chicken strips (diced up), a little bit of red onion (diced up), some seedless cucumber (sliced up), some fresh tomatoes (diced up) are the base of this meal. 

While you are dicing these up, toss a bag of Trader Joe's frozen jasmine rice in the microwave for 3 minutes to cook. 

Microwave dings! Split the bag of rice into 2 large dinner bowls. Top with everything you diced up - chicken, cucumber, onions, and tomatoes - and add some carmelized onions too. Then sprinkle some crumbled feta on top and put a BIG dollop of tzadziki on top of it all. 

If I remember, I grab some garlic naan while at Trader Joe's to have on hand. FYI, keep it in the fridge because otherwise it'll only last 2 days on your counter before going bad. 

And that's IT. A delicious 5 minute dinner ready to go. Super yummy, fast, and even kids like it too! 

Friday, October 25, 2019

Fashion Friday: Rothy's

If you know me, or you've been following my #fasionfriday posts, you know how much I love my Rothy's. I have numerous pairs. And for this week's Fashion Friday post, I'm going to delve into why I love them and how each style fits. 

For reference, I have small but wide feet. I don't have any 'foot issues' other than I am on my feet a lot and like comfort as well as fashion. Plus, I chase after a toddler so shoes need to be comfortable, easy, comfortable, stylish, and comfortable. 

After seeing their ads scattered all over the internet and social media, I bit the bullet about two years ago. And in those two years, my collection has hit a dozen. Yes, I own a dozen pair of Rothy's. And yes, before you even ask, they are worth every penny. Let's chat about why. 

They're stylish. They're comfortable. They're washable. They're sustainable. They're cute. Their company has an amazing mission. They're recycled material. They're durable. They're easy to care for. They always look brand new. They stand the test of time. Their customer service is exceptional. They have free shipping, returns, and exchanges. 

I could go on. But let's chat styles. 

The Loafer

These are my go to style that I wear the most. They're casual yet make me feel more dressed than my slip-on sneakers. The patterns add a fun pop of fashion and style to my outfit because I usually dress in basics and add a fun shoe. 

They fit easily and I love that the inner sole can easily slip out and be washed alone or replaced for just $10. They are snug around toes but not pinching and squeezing the way some pointy-toe shoes can. Know what I mean?

Now, I have small feet. My friends often say I have baby feet. I wear a 5.5 or 6 in most shoes. I can wear the Rothy's loafers in a kids size 4. They equate their kids size 4 to a 5 but I feel it's more of a 5.5 (and the sneakers it's more 6/6.5) I have had to return a few patterns because they felt like they ran smaller. For reference, those were the red camo and red zebra. But overall, the kid size loafers work well for me. I know, I'm lucky because the kids sizes are a lower price. 

The kids version of the loafers do not have as long as an appearance as the adult sizes so mine are shorter and wider than the adult size ones. In the adult size, the top area that covers your foot comes down over half way to cover your foot where the kid size is more like 1/3 of the way to cover the top of your foot. 

I have the loafers in camo, leopard, and bright pink and as you can see, the camo and leopard are my go to shoes of choice 95% of the time. 

If you don't think leopard and camo are neutrals, we should meet for drinks to discuss it. 

These fit true to size, no need to size up or down. 

The Sneaker

Sincerest apologies as I haven't taken a feet picture of my sneakers! I own the Kelly Green, Grey Camo (both only kids colors), and Navy and I wear the navy pair the most often. It's neutral and basic and goes with everything. And since I live in jeans, it's complementary!

The sneaker can be perfectly described as a hug for your feet. I know no other way to describe how they fit. They hug across the top of your feet and fit snug but not snug that you'll blister or be uncomfortable. The recycled water bottle material is surprisingly breathable so they don't smell when your feet sweat. Seriously. Who knew plastic could breathe?!

Remember slip-on Keds from high school? Or the Steve Madden quilted slip-ons that were all the rage a few years ago? These are 1000 times better. I swear. The hug for your foot can't be beat. 

These fit true to size. Perfection fit as I like to call it. 

The Point

Now, I have small wide feet and these are not my favorite style. I have 2 pair, the leopard and cat eye because they are fun and stylish and heels are a struggle for me. Because my feet are shaped on the wider end, any pointy toe shoes are hard to FIT well on me. 

I love how they look but I like how they feel. Roll with me on this. Pointy-toe shoes are difficult for me because of the shape of my foot. Toe cleavage is also a weird thing for me. These minimize the amount for toe cleavage (which I appreciate) but because my feet are short and wide, it's a weird fit for me. 

Definitely go up half a size when getting the points. I have numerous friends who swear by them and that they're the best pointy-toed flats they've ever owned. I trust them completely. 

The Flat 

These are my fun shoes. I have one pair of basic black and all my others are fun colors - red, pink, yellow, orange, to name a few. 

The points elongate your feet which they say makes you look taller (I gave up on appearing taller many moons ago) but these I feel have a fun detail that give the illusion of a point because of the point on the inner curve of the shoe. And because they're rounded toe, there is more room in the shoe for wider feet. Like mine. 

These fit true to size as well. 

Overall, in all honesty, with a dozen pair, I feel as though they are a staple in my wardrobe. They can be worn through all kinds of weather and are stylish from spring straight through winter. 

Have you tried Rothy's yet? If not, and want to, simply click here for $20 off your first (or next) pair!